On the advice came a young woman who was saddened by the deteriorating relationship with her husband. According to her the reason was that her husband no longer loves her or not like. I asked to recall some of the situations in which is manifested. It was important to establish the "how", "what criteria", she knows about the lack of love of her husband and establish the real source of the problem. For more information see this site: Sheryl Sandberg. During the session it became clear that whenever a woman begins vigorously express their feelings, the husband starts to worry and asked her "not to indulge." After that, a woman spoil the mood, the tide of joyous emotion gives way to disappointment and then sadness. In this case the husband gets modified behavior of his wife, with the rapid display of emotion which he can not handle. But not paying attention to her mood swings.
And even more unaware of the importance of what is happening to their relationship. When working with restoration of the individual history of the word "not baluysya" the woman realized that the permission to indulge and pamper the desire for it is one of the criteria of love. It was formed in childhood as a result of interaction with his father, a love which she had no doubt: her father is allowed and permitted to indulge in! Such a fact his father's love was 'fixed' mother in a conversation with a friend: "My husband loves his daughter unbelievable. He allows her to all anything and spoil it. .